DISMANTLING RAPE CULTURE AND EMPOWERING CONSENT with the Arizona Coalition to End Sexual and Domestic Violence January 28th, 2019

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This training will examine the sociocultural context of sexual violence and victim blame. We will explore the links between objectification and sexualization of violence in the media, and how this contributes to rape myth acceptance, victim blame, and sexual assault. Participants will gain an understanding of the negative effects of blame on sexual assault survivors, and develop strategies to interrupt victim blame and promote positive cultural change surrounding sexual violence.

About the Presenters:

The Arizona Coalition Against Domestic Violence was formed in 1980 so that concerned citizens and professionals could unite in a statewide organization to end domestic violence. In 2013, the coalition became the designated dual coalition to address both sexual and domestic violence thus becoming the Arizona Coalition to End Sexual and Domestic Violence.

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Masked Fire Ball: February 23rd, 2019

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The seventh annual Masked Fire Ball once again brings us outdoor play space at APEX! While Fire-Play has been allowed in the Dungeon for the last several years, there are things we just cant do inside!

The Masquerade: The best mask and costume get a full ride to the Bizarre Bazaar-including the party! Dress up and get hot! Bring your fire play toys….we are heating things up!

We have a lot of fire performers in the club. We’re going to set some space aside out back for a good old fashioned fire jam. Bring all that stuff we can’t do inside and let your fire-big fly!

There will also be some super cool fire scenes, so even if you don’t do it…it will provide some awesome fire porn!

This is a themed costume party, but everyone is welcome. Your regular Dungeon Party activities will be available inside the space.

Hosted Play Space with Fire Wands will also be available outside! We will have the supplies and coaches to do this kind of fire play safely!

While we will be providing BBQ and some yummy fondue, please bring a food item to share. A six-pack of soda would also be appreciated. Water and ice will be provided.

OPEN TO ALL APEX MEMBERS.

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$15 for Pay Per Event Members, FREE for All Access Members

While we will remain open until 2am, the doors will close at 11pm so our Volunteers can enjoy the party as well. If you can’t get there before 11pm, please make special arrangements via email:Contact@ArizonaPowerExchange.org

To Learn More about APEX Membership Please visit the website: https://arizonapowerexchange.org/membership

*Please note: You must be a member at least 24 hours PRIOR to this event to attend. No orientations will be done at this event.

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The Kink Bucket Returns in 2019

FacebooktwitterIn 2018, we introduced the Kinky Bucket List.  We asked for:

  • Classes you want to see
  • Events you would like to attend
  • Changes to the Space
  • Things you would like to try
  • Anything APEX members can make happen!

so that together, we could make APEX all we want it to be!

In 2018 we had 114 things in the kinky bucket. 82 of those happened with several in the works!

Some of those included:

  • Specific presenters
  • LOTS of classes
  • Requested Hosted Play Space fetishes
  • 101/202 Content
  • Preparty Workshop Content
  • Themed Parties
  • Even party food!

In 2019 we commit to doing a better job of telling you what was based on the Kinky Bucket!

Again for 2019 throughout the space there will be buckets where you can add what you want APEX to be for you.

  • Classes you want to see
  • Events you would like to attend
  • Changes to the Space
  • Things you would like to try
  • Anything APEX members can make happen!

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December 29th, 2018: APEX NEW YEAR: BLACKLIGHT PARTY

FacebooktwitterCelebrate 2018 at APEX with all your kinky friends! Back by popular demand, we are bringing back the fun and outrageous black light party! We’re going to light up our entire space with black light so you can glow and shine as we celebrate our year!

We will roll the 2018 slideshow, and you can relive the fantastic moments of 2018.

HOSTED PLAY SPACE!  No glowing duds, don’t worry. We will be providing body paint so you can light up the night in your own special way. The downstairs play room will be yours to enjoy getting glowy!  The Glow Bar will also return so everyone can enjoy lighting up the night!

Celebrate your heritage and bring your favorite New Year’s dish. We all have traditions, let’s bring them all together and celebrate the diversity that makes us so amazing!

This is not a photo party, but we will provide an opportunity for you to take a photo in blacklight!

OPEN TO ALL APEX MEMBERS.

You must be an APEX (or reciprocal) member in order to attend an APEX party. This is legal stuff, sorry all! You can learn more about being a Member of the Arizona Power Exchange on our Membership Page.

$15 for Pay Per Event (or reciprocal) Members, FREE for All Access Members

While we will remain open until 2am, the doors will close at 11pm so our Volunteers can enjoy the party as well. If you can’t get there before 11pm, please make special arrangements via email: Contact@ArizonaPowerExchange.org

To Learn More about APEX Membership Please visit the website https://arizonapowerexchange.org/becoming-a-member/

*Please note: You must be a member at least 24 hours PRIOR to this event to attend. No orientations will be done at this event.

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APEX Holiday Party: Saturday, December 8th, 2018

FacebooktwitterCelebrate the Season with your kinky friends! This is our chance to relax and unwind before the Holidays!

APEX requests all of our volunteers make an effort to attend…Santa has a surprise for you! This is the party where we celebrate our volunteers for all of the amazing things they do all year long!

This party will be full of surprises and presents and lots of fun things! We look forward to wishing you all a very happy holiday season!

We will be doing a holiday-inspired main dish, but a share food is very welcome.

There will be raffle prizes. Your door folks will have tickets for you! There is a basket or two and a few fun things, just to get you started on your holiday!

Hosted Play Space: Holiday inspired hosted play space in the downstairs play room! We will provide fun holiday lights, gift wrap, and tree trimmings to celebrate in a fun and kinky way! The second annual Kinky Holiday Trophy will be awarded to the best Holiday themed scene of the evening as we spread holiday cheer in our own way.

There will also be a While Elephant Gift Exchange! We will begin at 8:30 pm in the Quieter Play Room! Bring a wrapped gift of no more than $10.00, or you can bring something to re-gift! This will be a fun way to start our evening!!

We know there are LOTS of things going on with the holidays, don’t stress! We encourage you to just stop by to eat, or get your raffle ticket, or visit the Candy-Bar, or just swing by to say “thank you” to our hard working volunteers. No one’s feelings will be hurt if you double booked yourself.

Watch the APEX Group on FetLife for the buzz about weekly parties, who is bringing what, and what our friends are planning!

Please bring a food item to share. A six-pack of soda would also be appreciated. Water and ice will be provided.

OPEN TO ALL APEX MEMBERS.

You must be an APEX (or reciprocal) member in order to attend an APEX party. This is legal stuff, sorry all! You can learn more about being a Member of the Arizona Power Exchange on our Membership Page.

$15 for Pay Per Event Members, FREE for All Access Members

While we will remain open until 2am, the doors will close at 11pm so our Volunteers can enjoy the party as well. If you can’t get there before 11pm, please make special arrangements via email: Contact@ArizonaPowerExchange.org

To Learn More about APEX Membership Please visit the website: https://arizonapowerexchange.org/membership

*Please note: You must be a member at least 24 hours PRIOR to this event to attend. No orientations will be done at this event.

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APEX Supports Transgender Awareness Week: November 12-19th, 2018

FacebooktwitterAPEX Supports Transgender Awareness Week: November 12-19th, 2018

Between November 12 – 19, individuals and organizations around the country will participate in Transgender Awareness Week to help raise the visibility of transgender and gender non-conforming people, and address the issues the community faces. Also, after Transgender Awareness Week is Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR), an annual observance on November 20 that honors the memory of those whose lives were lost in acts of anti-transgender violence.

November 12 – 19 organizations around the country will participate in Transgender Awareness Week to help raise the visibility of transgender and gender non-conforming people, and address the issues the community faces. APEX embraces all people, of all identities, and we want to help each of us to be more inclusive, more accepting, and more supportive.

What is Transgender Awareness Week? (borrowed from GLAAD)

Transgender Awareness Week is a time for transgender people and their allies to take action and bring attention to the community by educating the public and advancing advocacy around the issues of prejudice, discrimination, and violence that transgender people face.

What is Transgender Day of Remembrance?

Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) was started by transgender advocate Gwendolyn Ann Smith as a vigil to honor her memory of Rita Hester, a transgender woman who was killed in 1998. The vigil commemorated all the transgender people lost to violence that year and began an important memorial that has become the annual Transgender Day of Remembrance.

Participate in Transgender Day of Remembrance by attending or organizing a vigil on November 20 to honor all those whose lives were lost to anti-transgender violence that year.  Vigils are typically hosted by local transgender advocates or LGBT organizations, and held at community centers, parks, places of worship and other venues. The vigil often involves reading a list of the names of those who died that year. See the TDOR website at www.transgenderdor.org.

 

What can we do to Support and Raise Awareness?

At the Club:

We will have transgender awareness ribbons available beginning November 10th.

Every $5.00 or $10.00 Donation at the club will score you a transgender awareness ribbon that you can wear all month long to show your support.

Donations will be sent to: Trans Spectrum of Arizona https://tsaz.org/

About Trans Spectrum of Arizona:

Welcome to Trans Spectrum of Arizona!  Our purpose is to provide service, support and a social outlet for transgender and gender non-conforming individuals and their allies.

Trans Spectrum of Arizona provides programming for transgender support and socializing.  For more information about our groups, visit our support pages for the Trans-masculine,  Trans-feminine,  and  Significant Others, Family, Friends and Allies. Don’t identify with the gender binary? We have a support space for gender fluid and gender non-conforming people called Gender Non-Conforming.

Trans Spectrum of Arizona is secular and not religiously affiliated.

What else can you do?

  1. Support the transgendered people in your life. You can learn to be a good ally! In addition to the several classes we have had at APEX recently about being a good ally!

According to the National Center for Transgendred Equality:

Learning to be an ally to the transgender people in your life, or to transgender people overall, is an ongoing process. Some ways to be a good ally are relatively simple and easy, while others require more time, energy, and commitment. Whether you’re looking for information on supporting a transgender person in your life or looking for tools that will help you to change the world to be better for transgender people overall, this guide can help.

One of the most important parts of being an ally to transgender people is learning what it means to be transgender. For information on identity, language, and other issues facing transgender people you can visit Frequently Asked Questions about Transgender PeopleUnderstanding Non-Binary People, and our About Transgender People hub, which has links to various resources and educational material.

The Basics: Things to Remember about Being an Ally

There is no one way to be a ‘perfect’ ally. The transgender community is diverse and complex, coming from every region of the United States and around the world, from every racial and ethnic background, and from every faith community. This means that different members of the transgender community have different needs and priorities. Similarly, there is no one right way to handle every situation, or interact with every trans person. Be respectful, do your best, and keep trying.

You don’t have to understand someone’s identity to respect it. Some people haven’t heard a lot about transgender identity, or have trouble understanding what it means to be trans, and that’s okay. But all people, even those whose identities you don’t fully understand, deserve respect.

You can’t always tell if someone is transgender simply by looking at them. Many people expect that they’ll “just know” when someone is trans, and may be surprised to learn that this isn’t always true. Since there is no one transgender experience, there is no one way for transgender people to look, either. This also means that transgender people may be in groups or gatherings that you attend without you knowing it, making it important to be an outspoken ally and supporter even in spaces that you think don’t have any transgender people in them.

There is no “one right way” to be transgender. Some transgender people choose to medically transition, and some don’t. Some transgender people choose to legally change their names or ID documents, and some don’t. Some transgender people choose to change their appearance (like their clothing or hair), and some don’t. Likewise, some transgender people may want to do many of those things but are unable to because they can’t afford it or for safety reasons. A transgender person’s identity does not depend on what things they have or haven’t done to transition, and no two transgender people’s journeys are exactly alike.

Continue to educate yourself. One of the simplest ways to be a strong ally is to take your education into your own hands. It’s important to have conversations with the trans people in your life, but it’s also important for you to seek out resources and information on your own. A few great places to start:

Click here to read more about: https://transequality.org/issues/resources/supporting-the-transgender-people-in-your-life-a-guide-to-being-a-good-ally

  • Interacting with Transgender People
  • Being Outspoken
  • Changing Businesses, Schools, and More
  • Changing the World
  • Putting it All into Action

Other Things you can do

  1. Learn to be a supportive friend and a good ally!

From GLAAD on how to be an ally

From PFLAG on how to be an ally 

From Transequality on how to support the transgender people in your life.

2. Share Resources: “Like” and “Share” these resources on your social media to raise awareness in November.

Resources for Transgender People in Crisis

Transgender people in crisis should contact the following resources:

Resource Guide:

Attached is the Trans Spectrum of Arizona Trans Resource Guide. Wear your pin in November, and be armed with this guide to educate your friends!Trans-Resource-Guide-6-13-16-editedFacebooktwitter

URGENT CALENDAR CHANGES NOVEMBER 3rd and November 4th

FacebooktwitterThe APEX parking lot is being resurfaced! While that is good news, it is short notice to move some things around.

We will be able to walk it on Saturday evening, so the regular Saturday party will still happen. However, we have had to bump the time to 6:30pm to make sure.

Also, there will be NO parking in any part of the parking lot. We will have to park on the street. Fair warning, it is fresh asphalt, so it WILL transfer on your shoes. Plan your footwear acccordingly. Also, please wipe your feet when you you come in to avoid tracking it all over the space.

All other weekend activities have had to be moved, and because our calendar is SO full, some had to be put off until next month. Please see the calendar for details.

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APEX Halloween Party and the E.D.G.E. on Photography!

FacebooktwitterOn Saturday, October 27th we will have some special surprises!

At 5:00pm we will have a special E.D.G.E. on Photography with a spooky-theme!

at 8:00pm our Halloween Party will be a fun filled evening of surprises! Performance art, costumes, great food, and prizes!A costume contest for most creative, sexiest, funniest, and most outrageous.

Please bring a share food! There will be a contest for the best Halloween themed goodie!

There will be a door prize from one of your favorite local vendors, and a raffle for some interesting treats…and tricks!

Don’t miss this opportunity to see what all the fuss has been about! It will be a magical evening!

This is a themed costume party, but everyone is welcome. Your regular Dungeon Party activities will be available!Facebooktwitter

APEX Kink Karnival and Community Open House

FacebooktwitterThe Kink Karnival is an amazing collection of Vendors,  Demonstrations and Performances, and fun! Learn more about the Arizona Power Exchange, The Valleys Premier Source for BDSM education, social opportunities, and support. Learn about Lifestyle Organizations in our Valley, see some over the top demonstrations and performances provided by our local community, meet like-minded people, and see the largest collection of quality vendors assembled in Arizona.

Tickets to the Kink Karnival are $15.00. All Access Members get into the party for free. Pay Per Event members can purchase presale tickest for both the KK & Party for $25.00 HERE

This event is intended for adults over 18 years old, and will have adult content that may be offensive. Please do not attend this event if you are offended by adult subjects, nudity, and adult language.

Want to know what’s happening?

Click through to the Kink Karnival website below for more information about:

If you are a member of APEX you can get a discount on the KK and Party for purchasing your tickets in advance! *You must be an APEX Member prior to the KK to attend the party.

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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Why are our Porch Lights Purple?

FacebooktwitterOctober is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. As purple is the symbolic color used to represent domestic violence, we are asking our Members to embrace the Purple Porch Project and help us light up the town this October!

WAYS YOU CAN HELP RIGHT NOW:

1.Light up your own porch! Purple lights are available at all of the home improvement stores.

2.Donate goods. Domestic violence survivors who leave an abuser often have little more than the clothes on their backs. Donations of household goods, uniforms, toys and small appliances can make a big difference. APEX will have a donation spot at the party on October 22nd  to make this easy! Please see the list of needed items below.

3.Wear purple clothing on Thursday, Oct. 25th in support of domestic violence awareness, and share your photo with the tag #PurpleThursday.

4.Part with a few dollars. Many shelters and agencies run on shoestring budgets. Even a small donation can make a big difference. APEX will accept donations for The Sojourner Center at the October 22nd Party (Checks should made to them) or you can donate directly here: https://www.sojournercenter.org/get-involved/give/

5.Write a status update or post raising awareness about domestic violence on social media.

6.Publicly thank community members who are working to end domestic violence with a statement in social media.

7.Share articles about ending domestic violence on social media.

8.Educate yourself. Would you know if a friend was being abused? By the time bruises appear, abuse may have been going on for years. Know the warning signs.

9.Know what to do. If a friend or loved one is being abused support them even if they make choices, you don’t agree with. Don’t insist that they leave their partner, but help them develop a safety plan.

10.Work with Lost Our Home Pet Rescue to encourage people in the community to foster pets for survivors who need temporary pet care. http://www.lostourhome.org/

Our Chosen Shelter (click to read about Sojourner Center) is Currently in Need of…

  • Clothing for school, work, interviews, and daily wear
  • Household items such as lamps, small appliances, furniture and linens
  • Children’s items such as high chairs, strollers, and toys
  • Personal hygiene products for babies, children and adults
  • Gently used CLEAN clothing (for adults and children, including teen boys and girls)
  • Baby wipes
  • Pillows
  • Twin-size sheet/comforter sets
  • Blankets (twin-size or larger)
  • Adult and children’s shoes (all styles, all sizes)
  • Towels (bath, hand, washcloths)
  • Personal hygiene (bar soaps, shampoos, conditioners, solid deodorants, feminine hygiene)
  • Unused underwear (all sizes, adults and children)
  • Hair dryers

Pet Companion Shelter: Click to read more about the Pet Companion Shelter

  • Dog/puppy food (chicken flavor preferred)
  • Cat/kitty food
  • Clumping kitty litter
  • Dog and cat beds
  • Office supplies including printer paper
  • Laundry detergent and dryer sheets

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