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APEX Flea Market: Friday, April 20th @ 7pm


You have bought some new and improved things at the KK, and now have a storage problem. Today is the day to fix that! We will be having a flea market at APEX. From 7-9:30pm we will provide space for those of you who would like to do a little selling and bartering! Find a home that will love the things you can no longer store!

Anyone can reserve a table by sending an email to Though if we run out of space, APEX Members get preferential treatment. There will be a $5.00 charge for those wanting to have table space, but everyone else gets in for free. Drinks and snacks will be available at the concessions booth.

Please note: This is not a vendor event. Bizarre Bazaar on March 17th is a vendor fair. If you are a Vendor, you can request to Vend at Bizarre Bazaar in March, or Kink Karnival in November by visiting

Open to All Member of our 18+ Community

Please RSVP HERE. (Not Required for attendance)


Weekend Intensive: Dr. Bob Rubel and Indigo


We have an exciting announcement!

Dr. Bob Rubel will be returning to APEX, and as a bonus, will be bringing along an amazing resource-Indigo!

View The Entire Weekend Schedule
View Saturday’s Intensive on Authority Transfer Dynamics with Robert Rubel
View Saturday’s Intensive on Female-Led Dynamics with Indigo
View Sunday’s Class
View Costs and Other Details

About Robert J (Dr. Bob) Rubel

Dr. Bob, an author, educator and photographer is an educational sociologist and researcher by training.  He currently has a dozen books in print plus two DVDs (Books: three on Master/slave topics, two on BDSM mastery, one on communication strategies, two on advanced sex techniques, one on fire play, and three erotic art photo books.  Additionally, he has produced two educational DVDs: one on fire play and one on beginning impact play).

Recipient of the 2008 Pantheon of Leather’s Community Choice Award (man), Dr. Bob has been involved in the BDSM and Total Power Exchange (TPE) scenes since the summer of 2001, throwing himself into the literature of the field as though it were an academic study. He presents, judges, and sells his books at weekend kink conferences throughout the year.

About Goddess Indigo

Goddess Indigo never thought of herself as “a dominant;” people simply did what she requested. For example, she converted her first boyfriend (an Alpha primal male) into a house slave — to his surprise.  One day, she stumbled upon the word “dominant” online and realized that her natural way of being had a name!  A voracious reader and researcher, she dove head-first into the worlds of BDSM, M/s, and power exchange.  Indigo began presenting in 2002, and now shares her knowledge on topics such as: Grief and Loss within the BDSM Dynamic; BDSM and Hypnosis (she is a certified hypnotist); Fostering Addiction; Advanced Medical Play; Extreme Cock and Ball Torture; Cross-dressing and Feminization; Water Sports; Pony Play; The Sublime Art of Feminine Dominance; E.M.P.O.W.E.R.: The Feminine Archetypes; Temporary Branding; Internal Electrical Play; Care and Feeding of the Female Dominant; and Male/Female Fisting.

In the past, Indigo’s community contributions have included: many years as host of “The Leather Line” (an alternative radio program in Houston); spear-heading Camp Crucible’s Pony Camp (the largest gathering of human equines in the United States); emceeing various events (such as the “Pony Jamboree” (Austin, TX) and for the Annual Camp Crucible “Lucky Fucker Pony Show”); and performing at venues such as IMsL (International Ms Leather) and Art Erotica (Austin).


The weekend Activities will be something not to miss!

Click Here to See the Entire Weekend Schedule

Friday Schedule:

Saturday Schedule:                                                                                                      Link to Indigo Intensive                                                                                          Link to Robert Rubel Intensive

  • 9-10am breakfast
  • Class 10-12:30
  • Lunch is served 12:30-1:30
  • Class 1:30-3:00pm
  • Break for snacks 3:00pm-3:30pm
  • Class 3:30pm-5pm
  • 5:00pm event ends

Sunday Schedule

11am-1pm Class Bonding through Protocols and Rituals

Friday July 6th, 2018

6:00pm-8:00pm Meet and Greet with Robert Rubel and Indigo

8:00pm When Sparks Fly

Electricity can light up our lives! From sensual to sadistic, Goddess Indigo and Dr. Bob show how to add a little charge with this versatile type of play! The Eros-Tek 312B, Eros-Tek 302, Eros-Tek 232, Folsom, PES, Tens, Violet Wand and other power boxes are on hand so that you can learn the differences between these devices and see what works best for you. They will demonstrate both internal and external electrodes and explore the differences. This is an exciting opportunity for interaction, so come prepared to be electrified! This workshop is will be hands-on. Over $3,000 in equipment will be available to help you decide how make things more electric!

Saturday July 7th, 2018 Schedule
Two Intensives! They are both so good, it will be difficult to choose!


Classes with Robert Rubel on Authority Transfer Dynamics:

The Forever Fairytale: Stabilizing Power-Imbalanced Relationships for your “Happy Ever After.”

Long-term authority-imbalanced relationships are not accidental; they require thoughtful planning and ongoing work. Without the work, relationships get into trouble. Unfortunately, some of the areas that require thought and work are subtle – you may not even think of them on your own. This class of for people who are interested in considering options for structuring (or restructuring) their relationship. (NOTE: attendees may wish to take notes.)

Did you hear what I didn’t say? Exploring communication strategies
This class explores common communication upsets.

Relationships in our BDSM community are often more complex than marriages. Couples are often new to one another and new to the new D/s “rules” and expectations. “Stuff” can disrupt clear communication. When communications get into trouble, the relationship gets into trouble.

This workshop covers some “out-of-the-box” communication issues. We’ll discuss many topics that are often hidden, such as how we communicate love, how time may be different for each partner, how upbringing may affect your current relationship, how we process information, and so forth.

Many tips and techniques are easy to explain and to learn and provide eye-opening insights about ways you and your partner(s) communicate love. Similarly, couples/triads/etc often collide over issues that are not at all obvious to either party. (NOTE: you might wish to bring pen and paper.)

Hidden Relationship Responsibilities

This class is about grappling with some of the Leader’s hidden responsibilities in a power-imbalanced relationship.

Certain words describe concepts that in turn describe key aspects of power-imbalanced relationships (Owner/property, Master/slave, Dominant/submissive, etc). When there is disagreement between the D-type and the s-type regarding these concepts or how to fulfill them, destabilizing stresses begin to surface. Topics include: management issues; decision-making; love in relation to obedience and punishment; fear; punishment and punishment systems; and service. This interactive session will explore some of these elements in an effort to discuss ways to ensure and sustain a stable relationship. (NOTE: attendees may wish to take notes.)


Classes with Indigo on Female-led dynamics:

E.M.P.O.W.E.R. The Feminine (Female Masters’ Class)

In our society, women are often seen as a weakness. That raises a question: can a dominant female be both feminine and powerful? Goddess Indigo proposes that femininity is power. Join us as we explore misconceptions of female power, strong female archetypes, and how to realize our potential to be the self-actualized, fully-faceted, and “supremely powerful feminine self” we are meant to be. We will discuss ways that integrating basic behaviors (i.e. living authentically and with integrity) enables us to take control and master our own lives so we can more successfully accept surrender from our partners. Find your direction, your path, and your potential. Renew your drive, your passion, and your spirit. E.M.P.O.W.E.R. The Feminine.

SEDUCTION—The Art and Allure of Female Dominance

The art of seduction is at your fingertips. Learn how to fascinate, entrance, tempt, and ultimately enslave with time-proven techniques employed by powerful women throughout the ages. Delve into feminine archetypes and find what resonates within you. Gain insight into your own power and tap deeper into your magnetism. Explore the soft, sensual, and sexy Divinely Dominant Temptress inside of you!

Relationship Judo: Reversing the Script for the Female-Led Dynamic

Few would argue that we are still in a male-dominated culture. A female-led dynamic can seem counterintuitive and contrary to societal norms. Can we take a female dominant seriously when potential partners are inundated with images of a stereotypical Fem-Dom that is a sex-kitten clad in latex-wearing thigh-high stiletto heels? How can we construct, sustain, and even thrive in female-led relationships when so much around us points in the opposite direction? Rather than following masculine archetypes and management styles that might not provide long-term sustainability, we must forge our own path. We will discuss leadership styles that can enhance and energize your dynamic, ways to utilize misconceptions and myths to your benefit and even how to incorporate “traditional values” in establishing and maintaining healthy, flourishing dynamics.


Sunday July 8th, 2018

11:00am-1:00pm  Using Protocols to Make Your World Special

This class is suitable for those new to our culture.

Protocols are an outgrowth of your values.  Some are tried-and-true, some you’ll have to create to suit your own relationship.  You can create protocols that support your own version of a magical world and you can create protocols that solve challenges that come up within a relationship, such as getting back into Master or slave headspace after a long day at work.  Protocols can also be used to help stabilize relationships that are being pulled back to the land of vanillas.  We’ll discuss practical protocols, and attendees will have the opportunity to ask for help designing protocols to fit their particular needs. (NOTE: attendees may wish to take notes.)

Costs and Other Details:


Open to All APEX Members
All Access Members can get either of the weekend Intensives for $20.00. Pay Per Event Members are $30.00
Friday and Sunday Classes are FREE for Annual ALL Access Members, and $6.00 for Pay Per Event Members




Master Todd and slave elizabeth

Master Todd has been in active in the BDSM community since 2004 and a pervert for as long as he can remember. He collared his slave, elizabeth, in December of 2007 and they live in a 24/7 Master/slave relationship. He and  slave elizabeth were honored to serve as the Southwest Master and slave 2013. In 2012 slave elizabeth founded the Austin girls of Leather (AgoL) and serves as the club leader. She is a Master’s level counselor and specializes in end of life and grief work. As parents to their rainbow of LGBTQIA kids they passionately work to advocate and educate via presentations in vanilla settings and through her page Kinky Queer and Patenting on Facebook.

Always ready with her quick wit and gift of gab, slave elizabeth enjoys opportunities to emcee and is honored to have served as the co-emcee for South Plains Leatherfest 2017. Together they serve the larger Leather community through teaching locally and around the country and as volunteer correspondents for  More information about them can be found at

Friday night: 7pm-9pm

Meet and Greet with Master Todd and slave elizabeth

Meet Master Todd and slave elizabeth before they begin teaching. There will be snacks.

No charge, open to the entire 18+ Community



The day will include:

Continental breakfast

Power 101: Introduction to Intentionally Unequal Relationships (Topics to include: Defining terms, discussing differences and similarities, Benefit/cost analysis)

Power 201: Channels, Challenges, and Chances 

(Topics to include: finding power without sucking your partner dry, service as a tool)(Including break out session)

Coming Together

(Discussion, break out sessions, wrap up the day)

*The day includes lunch and snacks


The day will include:

Continental breakfast

Power Outage

(Topics to include: Failures, flaws, weakness, betrayal; finding forgiveness)

Getting it On

(Pragmatics Demo/Practice Session: BYOPeople or Borrow one of Us)

The day includes lunch and snacks


Open to all APEX Members. $30 for Annual All Access Members, $40 for Pay Per Event Members

Please RSVP HERE. (Not Required for attendance)


APEX Bizarre Bazaar: March 17th, 2018


The Bizarre Bazaar is an amazing collection of Vendors, Edgy Demonstrations and Performances, and fun! Learn more about the Arizona Power Exchange, The Valleys Premier Source for BDSM education, social opportunities, and support. Learn about Lifestyle Organizations in our Valley, see some over the top demonstrations and performances provided by our local community, meet like-minded people, and see the largest collection of quality vendors assembled in Arizona.

Tickets to the Bizarre Bazaar are $10.00. All Access Members get into the party for free. Pay Per Event members can purchase presale tickest for both the BB & Party for $20.00 HERE

This event is intended for adults over 18 years old, and will have adult content that may be offensive. Please do not attend this event if you are offended by adult subjects, nudity, and adult language.


Learn more about the Bizarre Bazaar:

If you are a member of APEX you can get a discount on the BB and Party for purchasing your tickets in advance! *You must be an APEX Member prior to the KK to attend the party.

All Access members get into the party for FREE!


What a Great Week For Volunteers!


This week begins a new year of amazing volunteers at APEX.

We are mixing things up this year, and want some fresh new blood in the program!

We will also be doing regular updates here and on the  APEX group with some key positions that need to be claimed in 2018! Did you know, some of these can even be done from home?!
### [Tuesday, January 30th, we have a Volunteer Drive and Social][].
Learn about some of the things available, what needs doing this year, and how you can volunteer to help make APEX your own!

There will be snacks and drinks and lots of people to talk to!

### [Wednesday, January 31st there will be a Volunteer Orientation.][]

Our culture is as important at APEX as our Volunteers. All of our Volunteers want to create a safe, welcoming, and inclusive space for our fellow members. We are merely limited by our understanding and knowledge of how to do that. APEX worked hard in 2017 to support our volunteers with additional training and opportunities to learn. We are doubling down in 2018 with even more tools to put into your toolbox, only this time is it for everyone who volunteers at APEX, not just DM and Door Volunteers, but EVERYONE. We all want to be the best we can be, and APEX can help!

Each Volunteer will be given the foundation to further explore your APEX community, learn about how you can be more a part of the club each day, every time you walk into our space. In Volunteer Orientation we will look at the mission, vision, and values of APEX, and how you can contribute. This class will help you be not only a successful volunteer, but also a successful member-where your role as a volunteer falls in that, and how to be happy and successful in your position. Volunteer Orientation will also provide you the tools and support available to you on your journey at APEX.


We hope everyone will participate this year in some small way. Many hands make light work and all that!
### New Member Orientation Team
APEX is committed to providing lots of quality orientations in 2018. With that goal we created the New Member Orientation Team! An hour of our time creates successful new members, and helps each of us feel more responsible for our club. The next [New Member Orientation Team Training is on Thursday, February 1st at 6pm][]
### Door Training
Don’t forget…APEX is committed to 600 Events in 2018. That is to events EACH MONTH! To accomplish this, we need Door Volunteers! There is also a [Door Volunteer Training on Wednesday, February 7th][]. Door Volunteers are the front lines of our club, and you can be part of the “Mission Control” at APEX!
### Remember your Kinky Bucket List!
As we start the new year, you can make APEX everything you want it to be!

Throughout the space there are buckets where you can add what you want APEX to be for you.

* Classes you want to see
* Events you would like to attend
* Changes to the Space
* Things you would like to try
* Anything APEX members can make happen!

Keep your eyes open at APEX for fun updates on our Kinky Bucket List items!


NEW! Escape The Dungeon


As a fundraiser, APEX has created our very own escape room! It has been tested, run, and EVERYONE loves it!

To view the available games, visit the Escape The Dungeon Page

Note To Members: If you have six (6) players and there isn’t a time that works for you, please email with some dates/times that work and we will see if we can make it happen!

We also have some games open to the entire 18+ Community! Members can play in either. A full game always gives you a better chance at escaping!


Celebrate 2017 with APEX: Saturday, December 30th


Celebrate 2017 at APEX with all your kinky friends! Back by popular demand, we are bringing back the fun and outrageous black light party!

We’re going to light up our entire space with black light so you can glow and shine as we celebrate our year!

We will roll the 2017 slideshow, and you can relive the fantastic moments of 2017.

HOSTED PLAY SPACE!  No glowing duds, don’t worry. We will be providing body paint so you can light up the night in your own special way. The downstairs play room will be yours to enjoy getting glowy!  The Glow Bar will also return so everyone can enjoy lighting up the night!

Celebrate your heritage and bring your favorite New Year’s dish. We all have traditions, let’s bring them all together and celebrate the diversity that makes us so amazing!

This is not a photo party, but we will provide an opportunity for you to take a photo in blacklight!


You must be an APEX (or reciprocal) member in order to attend an APEX party. This is legal stuff, sorry all! You can learn more about being a Member of the Arizona Power Exchange on our Membership Page.

$15 for Pay Per Event (or reciprocal) Members, FREE for All Access Members


Celebrate The Season! Saturday, December 16th


Celebrate the Season with your kinky friends! This is our chance to relax and unwind before the Holidays!

RSVP to the APEX Holiday Party on, and tell all of your friends you are coming!

Without our Volunteers APEX wouldn’t exist, and so to thank those who give so much of themselves, we throw the best party of the year for you! Let’s celebrate all the amazing things our volunteers have accomplished, and thank them for their support of our club!

APEX requests all of our volunteers make an effort to attend…Santa has a surprise for you!

This party will be full of surprises and presents and lots of fun things! We look forward to wishing you all a very happy holiday season!

The Holiday Party is NOT a photo party, but there will be a photo opportunity for those wishing to have a keepsake. A decorated area will be available for your own photo of the evening.

We will be doing a holiday-inspired main dish, but a share food is very welcome. There will be a fun prize for the best holiday themed desert!

Hosted Play Space: Holiday inspired hosted play space in the downstairs play room! We will provide fun holiday lights, gift wrap, and tree trimmings to celebrate in a fun and kinky way!  The first annual Kinky Holiday Trophy will awarded to the best Holiday themed scene of the evening! Become the inaugural recipient as you spread holiday cheer!

There will also be a While Elephant Gift Exchange! We will begin at 8:30 pm in the Quieter Play Room! Bring a wrapped gift of no more than $10.00, or you can bring something to re-gift! This will be a fun way to start our evening!!


November 25th: Hosted Play Space, PreParty Workshop and Escape Game!


APEX is proud of our hosted play space and preparty workshops! While we are very excited for what 2018 brings, we’ve still got a lot happening this year!

November 25th Brings us a PreParty Workshop on Violet Wand Etching! Learn how some simple tools can create amazing art!

Same Party…Hosted Play Space with Mummification! In the Downstairs Play Room we will have everything you need to do a super fun mummification and RunnerDan will be in attendance if you need any help!

We will also be doing a baked potato bar! We will bring potatoes and some traditional fixings, but we are counting on you to bring whatever fun things you can come up with!

There will also be an opportunities for you to play in our Escape the Dungeon Game! Click here to book the game.

RSVP On and tell your friends you are coming!

Preparty Workshop on Violet Wand Etching
APEX Party with Hosted Mummification



APEX Halloween Party: Saturday, October 28, 2017 · 8:00 PM – 2:00 AM


A fun filled evening of surprises! Performance art, costumes, great food, and prizes!

A costume contest for most creative, sexiest, funniest, and most outrageous.

Please bring a share food! There will be a contest for the best Halloween themed goodie!

There will be a door prize from one of your favorite local vendors, and a raffle for some interesting treats…and tricks!

Don’t miss this opportunity to see what all the fuss has been about! It will be a magical evening!

This is a themed costume party, but everyone is welcome. Your regular Dungeon Party activities will be available!


$15 for Pay Per Event Members, FREE for All Access Members

While we will remain open until 2am, the doors will close at 11pm so our Volunteers can enjoy the party as well. If you can’t get there before 11pm, please make special arrangements via email:

To Learn More about APEX Membership Please visit the website:

*Please note: You must be a member at least 24 hours PRIOR to this event to attend. No orientations will be done at this event.


RSVP Here (Not Required For Attendance)