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Happy Pride Month


From the Library of Congress

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Queer (LGBTQ) Pride Month is currently celebrated each year in the month of June to honor the 1969 Stonewall Uprising in Manhattan. The Stonewall Uprising was a tipping point for the Gay Liberation Movement in the United States. In the United States the last Sunday in June was initially celebrated as “Gay Pride Day,” but the actual day was flexible. In major cities across the nation the “day” soon grew to encompass a month-long series of events. Today, celebrations include pride parades, picnics, parties, workshops, symposia and concerts, and LGBTQ Pride Month events attract millions of participants around the world. Memorials are held during this month for those members of the community who have been lost to hate crimes or HIV/AIDS. The purpose of the commemorative month is to recognize the impact that lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender individuals have had on history locally, nationally, and internationally.

In 1994, a coalition of education-based organizations in the United States designated October as LGBT History Month. In 1995, a resolution passed by the General Assembly of the National Education Association included LGBT History Month within a list of commemorative months. National Coming Out Day (October 11), as well as the first “March on Washington” in 1979, are commemorated in the LGBTQ community during LGBT History Month.

Executive and Legislative Documents

The Law Library of Congress has compiled guides to commemorative observations, including a comprehensive inventory of the Public Laws, Presidential Proclamations and congressional resolutions related to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual Transgender and Queer Pride Month.

In Arizona, our Pride Parade is in April, but we still celebrate Pride all month long. Look for local listings for all the amazing things happening in June. The New Times has an article on ways “to
show a little extra love for the LGBTQ community this month”.


NEW! APEX E.D.G.E.-Little’s


Third Sunday of the Month at 4pm

There is a Little inside many of us. Whether it’s coloring, tea parties or dress up, each of us Littles have an activity that brings us back to that fun, kid-like nature we enjoy so much.

For these reasons, we’ve dedicated an EDGE group to Littles! Join us to learn and experience life in this space! Each month we will theme our meeting to cater to each type of little. Everyone is welcome to our EDGE group, but we would like everyone to show up from a Littles headspace to help facilitate the objective of the group.Feel free to send any questions about our group to Deena:

E.D.G.E. Groups:
Extended Development, Growth, & Education (E.D.G.E.). An E.D.G.E. group is made up of APEX members who all share a common interest in learning, teaching, and developing skills. This is a peer-to-peer learning environment that facilitates practice and sharing knowledge in a particular area.

Educational groups will be open to all APEX members who would like to join. If you are interested in beginning an E.D.G.E. group, please e-mail

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$6 for Pay Per Event Members, FREE for All Access Members

To Learn More about APEX Membership Please visit the website:

Please RSVP HERE. For our First Meeting! (Not Required for attendance)


Facts about the new entry system for all access members


We have started the conversions to give our Annual All Access Members their Proximity Cards.

What that means is that Annual All Access members in good standing will have the ability to let themselves into an event until closing time.

So, if you are an Annual All Access Member and happen to be a night owl and only want to show up for the last hour of the party, you can do that! Late for class and the door is closed? No problem, let yourself in. This cool new system will unlock the front door to let you into the building, and also checks you in, so no worries about hunting down a door person or making special arrangements.

What this means for now…while we work out any kinks in the system:

  • Weeknight Classes that begin at 7:30pm: You can let yourself in until 9:30pm.
  • As a rule, All Access Members will be able to use their cards for two (2) hours after start time for anything other than parties.
  • Early Party: You can let yourself in until Midnight
  • Party Closing at 1:00am: You can let yourself in until 1:00am

We are sure we will discover ways to make this better as we move along, but that’s where we are starting. 



Starting May 1st, there will also be an auto-attendant in the front office next to the Door Volunteer. If the Door Volunteer is busy, you can scan yourself in! If the screen turns green, you are good to go!

Some Q&A for Annual All Access Members:

Q. Will I get a new card?
A. Yes. You will get a cool prox. card that hangs on your key chain. It doesn’t have a logo and there is no identification, so it can be on your keys without worry.

Q. What about my bar-coded card?
A. You want to keep this. This is your membership card for the benefit of reciprocity, as well as a few other things, so Annual All Access Members will have both. At some stage, maybe that changes, but today we will use both.

Q. So, does my membership number change?
A. Yes. The prox. cards have a whole different numbering system, so Annual All Access members will have a different number for the time they are Annual All Access Members. Keeping your bar-code card though means if you are ever NOT an Annual All Access Member you will revert to the bar-code.

Q. Why only Annual All Access Members?
A. Because if they are in good standing (meaning, current, with no expired cards or payment failures), Annual All Access members don’t need to see a door volunteer. This system will also have an “auto-attendant” while the door is open, so they can check themselves in if they choose.

Q. What if I need to renew, or I have to change my credit card, or a payment failed?
A. You will still need to see a person at the door just like normal. Keep track of your expiration date (on your bar-coded card) and see someone at the door.

Q. How do I get this magical card?
A. We are doing training right now so that we will have enough people to handle all of our Annual All Access Members. We will be doing paperwork and conversions April 24th -April 29th in order to have everyone ready for the May 1st launch. If you come in at one of those “Annual All Access Card Conversion” times, there will be door folks present to walk you through how it works, and sign an agreement that you understand. The conversion schedule is below and will be on our calendar shortly.

Q. Do we have to sign something?
A. Yes, but it is short. We need to share the rules of the new benefit like not letting other people in with you, and making sure everyone knows if their account is not in good standing they need to see a door person. We also need to verify with you that the name we have in our system is the one that will show on the screen when you check in, so it is important that the information is correct!

Q. Do I have to participate if I am an Annual All Access Member?
A. Nope. Completely voluntary. You can keep doing just what you are doing and we will be happy to check you in just like we always have.

Q. So, when can I come in?
A. When there is an event, your new card can be used to get in once the front door is locked for most of the remainder of the event. So, for example: On a Monday Night the door closes at 8:30pm, but All Access Members will be able to enter until 9:15pm. For a Saturday Night Party, your card will get you in until 1am.

Q. You didn’t answer my question!
A. Email us at or come to one of the “Annual All Access Card Conversion” dates.


The Kinky Bucket Returns in 2019

FacebooktwitterIn 2018, we introduced the Kinky Bucket List.  We asked for:

  • Classes you want to see
  • Events you would like to attend
  • Changes to the Space
  • Things you would like to try
  • Anything APEX members can make happen!

so that together, we could make APEX all we want it to be!

In 2018 we had 114 things in the kinky bucket. 82 of those happened with several in the works!

Some of those included:

  • Specific presenters
  • LOTS of classes
  • Requested Hosted Play Space fetishes
  • 101/202 Content
  • Preparty Workshop Content
  • Themed Parties
  • Even party food!

In 2019 we commit to doing a better job of telling you what was based on the Kinky Bucket! Keep your eyes on the screens for updates!

Again for 2019 throughout the space there will be buckets where you can add what you want APEX to be for you.

  • Classes you want to see
  • Events you would like to attend
  • Changes to the Space
  • Things you would like to try
  • Anything APEX members can make happen!

Participate and make APEX your own!Facebooktwitter

APEX Supports Transgender Awareness Week: November 12-19th, 2018

FacebooktwitterAPEX Supports Transgender Awareness Week: November 12-19th, 2018

Between November 12 – 19, individuals and organizations around the country will participate in Transgender Awareness Week to help raise the visibility of transgender and gender non-conforming people, and address the issues the community faces. Also, after Transgender Awareness Week is Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR), an annual observance on November 20 that honors the memory of those whose lives were lost in acts of anti-transgender violence.

November 12 – 19 organizations around the country will participate in Transgender Awareness Week to help raise the visibility of transgender and gender non-conforming people, and address the issues the community faces. APEX embraces all people, of all identities, and we want to help each of us to be more inclusive, more accepting, and more supportive.

What is Transgender Awareness Week? (borrowed from GLAAD)

Transgender Awareness Week is a time for transgender people and their allies to take action and bring attention to the community by educating the public and advancing advocacy around the issues of prejudice, discrimination, and violence that transgender people face.

What is Transgender Day of Remembrance?

Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) was started by transgender advocate Gwendolyn Ann Smith as a vigil to honor her memory of Rita Hester, a transgender woman who was killed in 1998. The vigil commemorated all the transgender people lost to violence that year and began an important memorial that has become the annual Transgender Day of Remembrance.

Participate in Transgender Day of Remembrance by attending or organizing a vigil on November 20 to honor all those whose lives were lost to anti-transgender violence that year.  Vigils are typically hosted by local transgender advocates or LGBT organizations, and held at community centers, parks, places of worship and other venues. The vigil often involves reading a list of the names of those who died that year. See the TDOR website at


What can we do to Support and Raise Awareness?

At the Club:

We will have transgender awareness ribbons available beginning November 10th.

Every $5.00 or $10.00 Donation at the club will score you a transgender awareness ribbon that you can wear all month long to show your support.

Donations will be sent to: Trans Spectrum of Arizona

About Trans Spectrum of Arizona:

Welcome to Trans Spectrum of Arizona!  Our purpose is to provide service, support and a social outlet for transgender and gender non-conforming individuals and their allies.

Trans Spectrum of Arizona provides programming for transgender support and socializing.  For more information about our groups, visit our support pages for the Trans-masculine,  Trans-feminine,  and  Significant Others, Family, Friends and Allies. Don’t identify with the gender binary? We have a support space for gender fluid and gender non-conforming people called Gender Non-Conforming.

Trans Spectrum of Arizona is secular and not religiously affiliated.

What else can you do?

  1. Support the transgendered people in your life. You can learn to be a good ally! In addition to the several classes we have had at APEX recently about being a good ally!

According to the National Center for Transgendred Equality:

Learning to be an ally to the transgender people in your life, or to transgender people overall, is an ongoing process. Some ways to be a good ally are relatively simple and easy, while others require more time, energy, and commitment. Whether you’re looking for information on supporting a transgender person in your life or looking for tools that will help you to change the world to be better for transgender people overall, this guide can help.

One of the most important parts of being an ally to transgender people is learning what it means to be transgender. For information on identity, language, and other issues facing transgender people you can visit Frequently Asked Questions about Transgender PeopleUnderstanding Non-Binary People, and our About Transgender People hub, which has links to various resources and educational material.

The Basics: Things to Remember about Being an Ally

There is no one way to be a ‘perfect’ ally. The transgender community is diverse and complex, coming from every region of the United States and around the world, from every racial and ethnic background, and from every faith community. This means that different members of the transgender community have different needs and priorities. Similarly, there is no one right way to handle every situation, or interact with every trans person. Be respectful, do your best, and keep trying.

You don’t have to understand someone’s identity to respect it. Some people haven’t heard a lot about transgender identity, or have trouble understanding what it means to be trans, and that’s okay. But all people, even those whose identities you don’t fully understand, deserve respect.

You can’t always tell if someone is transgender simply by looking at them. Many people expect that they’ll “just know” when someone is trans, and may be surprised to learn that this isn’t always true. Since there is no one transgender experience, there is no one way for transgender people to look, either. This also means that transgender people may be in groups or gatherings that you attend without you knowing it, making it important to be an outspoken ally and supporter even in spaces that you think don’t have any transgender people in them.

There is no “one right way” to be transgender. Some transgender people choose to medically transition, and some don’t. Some transgender people choose to legally change their names or ID documents, and some don’t. Some transgender people choose to change their appearance (like their clothing or hair), and some don’t. Likewise, some transgender people may want to do many of those things but are unable to because they can’t afford it or for safety reasons. A transgender person’s identity does not depend on what things they have or haven’t done to transition, and no two transgender people’s journeys are exactly alike.

Continue to educate yourself. One of the simplest ways to be a strong ally is to take your education into your own hands. It’s important to have conversations with the trans people in your life, but it’s also important for you to seek out resources and information on your own. A few great places to start:

Click here to read more about:

  • Interacting with Transgender People
  • Being Outspoken
  • Changing Businesses, Schools, and More
  • Changing the World
  • Putting it All into Action

Other Things you can do

  1. Learn to be a supportive friend and a good ally!

From GLAAD on how to be an ally

From PFLAG on how to be an ally 

From Transequality on how to support the transgender people in your life.

2. Share Resources: “Like” and “Share” these resources on your social media to raise awareness in November.

Resources for Transgender People in Crisis

Transgender people in crisis should contact the following resources:

Resource Guide:

Attached is the Trans Spectrum of Arizona Trans Resource Guide. Wear your pin in November, and be armed with this guide to educate your friends!Trans-Resource-Guide-6-13-16-editedFacebooktwitter

September is National Consent Month

FacebooktwitterPartnering with the NCSF, the Arizona Power Exchange is proud to bring you Consent Month!

Please visit the Consent Month Website for contests, merchandise, ideas, and free stuff as we all discuss consent in a positive way!

AT APEX, we focus on consent all month long including…

APEX sponsors [Consent Month][] and focuses on consent the entire month of September!

**Here are some things you might be interested in to support and empower consent in our club**


Monday, September 3rd: CONSENT @ APEX



Monday, September 17th: CONSENT SOCIAL WITH THE NCSF


Visit the APEX Calendar for more information!

Got Consent?Facebooktwitter

APEX 30th Anniversary

FacebooktwitterOur Anniversary Party usually commemorates the previous year, and we will certainly do that, but we will also celebrate all our yesterdays, and tomorrow’s yet to come.

Come revel with us in celebration of the clubs 30th year. There will be food, celebration old faces, new faces, presentations, congratulations, and a few surprises!

Doors open at 5:00pm to all Members of the Community (you MUST be 18)

*5:00pm-6:00pm Social Hour
5:00pm-8:30pm Snacks will be served
5:00pm-9:30pm Photographs in front of the Step-and-Repeat
*6:00pm Presentations (open to the entire 18+ community)
8:00pm Dinner followed by play party

*As this event is open to our Community, there will be no nudity or play activity.

Leather, Formal, or Fetish is the dress code for those who have it, but all are welcome.

Once presentations are over we will say goodbye to our supportive community and have dinner and then we play! We will celebrate with fellow members with a Brazilian steak house style meal!

Everyone is welcome to help turn over the space, or you can retire to the cafe and social areas to enjoy desert.


Presentations:  Included in your dinner/play party entry, or $10.00 for non-members.
APEX Anniversary Dinner & Play Party Pass (APEX Members ONLY) – $20.00 (For our current Pay Per Event Members)
APEX Anniversary Dinner & Play Party Pass (APEX Members ONLY) – $10.00 (For our current All Annual Access Members) Event Presentations Event Dinner and Play PartyFacebooktwitter


FacebooktwitterA fun theme party you won’t want to miss!

Wear your PJs to the Dungeon and play!

Your regular dungeon party activities will be available until 10pm, and then we will turn the main space into a pajama party! Movies, popcorn, games, and lots of fun things. The entire top floor and the downstairs play room will still be available for play until 2am.

For anyone who is interested we will also be spending the night! Bring your sleeping bags and air mattresses and we will be spending the night in the dungeon!

Sunday morning we will do a pancake breakfast before we all say goodbye. What a fun night!

Note: After 11pm (when the door closes, there will be no entry. If you leave the premises, you cannot come back. No, a trip to your car doesn’t count.)

Our Saturday night parties are the cornerstone of the APEX social environment. Participate, voyer, visit with your friends, or make new ones. There is always something to do, and always people to see!

Watch the APEX Group on Fetlife for the buzz about weekly parties, who is bringing what, and what our friends are planning!

A food item or soda is always welcome. Snacks for our pajama party are also welcome. Water and ice will be provided.


You must be an APEX (or reciprocal) member in order to attend an APEX party. This is legal stuff, sorry all!

You can learn more about being a Member of the Arizona Power Exchange on our Membership Page

$15 for Pay Per Event Members, FREE for All Access Members

To Learn More about APEX Membership Please visit the website

*Please note: You must be a member at least 24 hours PRIOR to this event to attend. No orientations will be done at this event.

Please RSVP HERE. (Not Required for attendance)Facebooktwitter

Your Kinky Bucket List

FacebooktwitterAs we start the new year, you can make APEX everything you want it to be!

Throughout the space there will be buckets where you can add what you want APEX to be for you.

  • Classes you want to see
  • Events you would like to attend
  • Changes to the Space
  • Things you would like to try
  • Anything APEX members can make happen!

We will have some fun updates for everyone as we gather your thoughts.

Participate and make APEX your own!Facebooktwitter

Did you know? APEX Supports all members of the community with Special Interest Groups

FacebooktwitterSpecial Interest Group (S.I.G.):

A Special Interest Group is for members of the BDSM Community who share a common interest that come together to talk, share, and support one another. Keeping with the Arizona Power Exchange mission of support, APEX provides space to these discussion groups free of charge, and membership in the club is not required.

There are currently Five (5) Special Interest Groups at APEX:

First Saturday of the Month at 3pm

Polyamory is having multiple loving relationships. Polyamory is allowing those you love to also have multiple loving relationships. Polyamory is conducting these relationships in an open, honest, ethical way.

For any and all interested in all aspects of Polyamory, join us as we learn more about polyamory, discuss topics relevant to polyamory, and meet other polyamorous people from O/our Community.

Third Sunday of the month at 11am

Calling all Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender/Transsexual, Queer & Questioning Kinky Folks! If you are seeking a group of like-minded individuals to laugh, share, and discuss the often unique challenges and joys we encounter in this lifestyle, please join us at APEX the third Sunday of the month from 11am to 1pm.

Each month we will grow and develop our community within the Community. If you identify as LGBTQ, or are a partner and friend of someone whom identifies as LGBTQ then please join us as we facilitate this Special Interest Group.

Third Wednesday of the Month at 7:15pm

This group is a discussion group for women who lead or are in charge of relationships and/or dynamics associated with the BDSM/Fetish/Kinky lifestyles.

It is for those that are genetically born female, those who identify mentally or emotionally as female and their slaves, submissives, boys, girls, pets, etc.

The group will meet monthly to support, share and discuss the successes, challenges and ideas as it relates to female led relationships or dynamics in a confidential and relaxed environment.

Fourth Wednesday of the month at 7pm

This is a discussion group for those identifying as Mistress, Maam, Mommy, Master, Top, Dom, Sir or Daddy.

For our current month topic, please keep your eyes on the APEX Group at , or on the APEX website.

We encourage the long timers and the new generation of kinksters to join us in a relaxed and confidential atmosphere for discussions about your challenges, successes and ideas.

Fourth Wednesday of the month at 7pm

A free for all discussion with the focus and attention on different topics each month.

Join us for tea and cookies and a relaxed atmosphere to engage your mind and Spirituality.

Open to subs, slaves, bottoms and those who will maintain this “sub” space during the discussions.

For our current month topic, please keep your eyes on the APEX Group at , or on the APEX website.

If you are interested in any of these discussion groups, please check our calendar for the schedule. Anyone over 18 who shares an interest with the group may attend.

If you are an APEX Member interested in facilitating a S.I.G. that is not currently represented, please email

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About APEX:

The Arizona Power Exchange (APEX) is a not-for-profit corporation that provides education, social opportunities, and support for adults who are interested in Bondage and Discipline; Dominance and Submission; and Sadomasochism (BDSM) who value individual responsibility, integrity, confidentiality, and respect for self and others. APEX provides on-going forums for education and practice of BDSM and opportunities for like-minded individuals to socialize, explore and learn in a respectful and dignified environment. APEX welcomes all sexual orientations, consensual relationships, and risk-aware BDSM and sexual practices.Facebooktwitter